✦ New Book — Available Now
Kerry Pastine is a life guide, author, and artist helping women 45+ rediscover who they truly are and design the life they actually want to live.
"I see the journey to self as the ticket to freedom. The freedom to finally get to be who you really are without fear of what anyone else thinks."— Kerry Pastine, Take Back Your Self
The world is loud and chaotic right now. The rise of AI, the erosion of autonomy, an epidemic of loneliness. It can feel like the ground is constantly moving beneath you.
For women in the second half of life, this moment often coincides with a deeper reckoning: Who am I, really? What do I want now? How did I end up so far from myself?
Kerry has been guiding people back to themselves for over 25 years. She's a life guide, a rock musician, a painter. She's also someone who has done this work herself, hard and honestly. She knows the way home.
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✦ Is This For You?
Somewhere between taking care of everyone else, following the script, and surviving the last few years — you lost the thread back to you. You're ready to find it again.
You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You know the language. But nothing has actually shifted. You need someone who will go deeper with you — in real time.
Divorce. Empty nest. Career shift. Health crisis. A move across the world. You're at a crossroads and you need a guide who has been there — not just someone who read about it.
Caretaking, people-pleasing, shrinking — it became your default. Now you're done. You want to know what it feels like to choose yourself, unapologetically.
You're a creative — an artist, a founder, a maker — and your inner world is directly connected to your work. Kerry has spent her career working with creatives who are ready to go all in.
Not the life you were supposed to want. Your life — designed by you, for you, with full awareness of who you are and what you're here to do.
✦ The Book
Take Back Your Self is not a self-help book you read and shelve. It's an interactive guided journey — part book, part journal, part coaching session — that takes you through six chapters of honest, courageous self-inquiry.
Originally written as Know Thyself in 2012 (and now completely revised for the world we live in today), this book was born from Kerry's own pen-to-paper journey through the most turbulent chapters of her life: moving to Lisbon, falling into a narcissistic relationship, battling chronic illness, and finding her way back to herself.
Face what you're struggling with today. Your feelings are the guide — and the starting point for everything.
Trace your patterns back to their roots. Learn the stories you've been living — and whether they're actually true.
Love your story, including its hardest chapters. Forgiveness isn't weakness — it's the doorway to healing.
Your life is a garden. Learn to tend it — pulling weeds, planting seeds, and giving yourself daily care.
Live your truth out loud. Show up in your relationships, choices, and daily life as your whole, real self.
You've done the work. Now create the life you actually want — with vision, intention, and confidence.
✦ Work With Kerry
Kerry doesn't coach from a textbook. She coaches from 25+ years of doing this work herself and with hundreds of clients across every kind of life reinvention imaginable. Sessions are conducted via video, globally. She works with a small number of clients at a time so you always get her full attention.
Most Flexible
A focused 60-minute session to break through a specific block, gain clarity on a decision, or get unstuck. Perfect if you want to experience Kerry's approach before committing to a program.
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Work through the full framework from the book with Kerry guiding you personally. Six weekly sessions plus journaling support. Transformation guaranteed.
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For those committed to deep, ongoing work. Monthly retainer-based coaching for women navigating major life transitions, creative careers, or a complete redesign of how they live.
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✦ What People Say
"Within two sessions I was able to see my life and my relationships completely differently. I don't know how she does it, but Kerry gets to the thing you've been avoiding — gently, but directly."
— Former Coaching Client
"I had been in therapy for years and nothing eased my pain. By my third session with Kerry I had started to heal. Truly heal. This woman changed my life."
— Former Coaching Client
"I picked up Take Back Your Self on a hard night and couldn't put it down. By the time I finished Chapter One I had already written things about myself that I'd been avoiding for years."
— Take Back Your Self Reader
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